During 2013, the blockbuster book and movie of Fifty Shades of Grey lead to a massive uptake in couples trying out kinky sex, particularly the foreplay which involves handcuffing, restraints, blindfolds and masks.
If you are thinking of using blindfolds or masks in the bedroom to spice up your sex life, then there is something you should learn. It is important to talk to one another about going ahead with the experience first – not in a formal way, but in a relaxed, sensual and humour-filled way.
If either one of you turns up in the bedroom wearing a gimp mask suit, without having consulted the other first, it could spell an end to your kinky love life for months to come. Beginners in the game of bondage, masks, blindfolding or restraints should use basic clothing as the sex toy of choice. There really is no need to go out and buy expensive eye masks when a man’s tie will actually do the job.
Why do couples try blindfolding in the act of sex in the bedroom? When you take away the sight of one person, that sense is cut off. But the human make-up actually has four other senses it can turn to; sense of smell, taste, touch and sound. Those four senses are heightened and feel more profound when one sense has been restricted.
The sight is one of our most important senses, so the other kick in and move up a gear when we shut our eyes. This is erotic beyond belief. Particularly when the unmasked partner places a small ice cube on your neck or chest, or places an item of erotic food into your mouth.
When eliminating vision you just don’t know what is coming next. This very action heightens the senses and makes the act of foreplay more exciting.
But you will find that women enjoy being blindfolded more than men. Strange that, but should this be the case? Men have instinctively loved to see what comes before them. They can stare into the eyes of a beautiful woman and fall into love or lust in a cold minute. When a man is blindfolded, it reduces the arousal a little as he does not see what awaits him. It is the same reason why men tend to look at porn more than women do.