You have found a Russian woman to whom you feel a compelling attraction. You have already had your second date and you are eagerly looking forward to having a third one. You keep calling your best friend almost every day and relaying to him all the minute details of what has been going on between you two. You ask for your friend’s valuable advice. He knows you rather well, so you assume that he can be your best judge and mentor and consultant as to what you need to say and to do in order to develop this fledgling relationship. You expect his precious opinions and his advice about your new Slavic soul mate.
You are open-minded and share with your friend all what has transpired during the day. You even advise him to find a Russian bride too. You tell him about the restaurant you chose to visit, about how she was very nice to you because she listened to your life story with admiration and never interrupted you, not even once. In general, you had a fantastic evening and want to continue the relationship, but there was one little issue you were not comfortable about. Say, she stated she wants to have only a boy when she gets married. Your friend decides that your Russian bride is wrong for you and her maternal instincts have a fault wired into them, or some such other conclusion is drawn. You finally begin to see that your friend is absolutely correct, that this woman is not fit to be together with, that she is not a match for you. And you begin searching frantically for an excuse not to show up for the next date, to call it quits.
And guess what? Your friend can be totally wrong in his assumptions and maybe you have just missed a great chance in your life. There can be many reasons why she said what she did. For instance, she may have had some traumatic experiences in her childhood with other girls, there can be all sorts of decent explanations why she thinks this way. So, the best recourse for you to resort to is to discuss this issue with your new date, not with your close friends. Maybe your Russian bride would not feel comfortable telling you the details right away, but you can always pick up the subject later. The simple truth is – you don’t have all the information to go by.
Your friends and your family member may be wishing you well, and all of them maybe well educated and experienced people. But it is your life, and only you have the right to decide it. Besides, as it has been said already, their advice may be flawed since they are not able to see the bigger picture due to the lack of information anyway, are not able to see the bigger picture due to the lack of information anyway.
Trust your own judgment and gut feelings
Does your brother jump at dismissing every woman you try to date because of his precious little rules regarding the matter? Does your best colleague seem to get his kicks from your dating failures and keeps joking about it? Does your allegedly best friend keep telling you that you are not the type to have a family? Does your father believe that you are not grown-up and responsible enough for marriage and warns you about the dangers of falling victim to dating scams on international dating sites?
If any of this sounds like your case, here is the only good advice we can give you: you are not a teenager who is not able to make a single step forward without consulting his family members, friends or colleagues. Feelings and emotions surrounding dating and life in marriage tend to be rather complex and even evanescent, you would be much better off trusting your own gut instincts. So, tread softly when it comes to sharing some details about your dating life and about your relationship with women.
You should learn how to be your own wise consultant in this delicate area. It doesn’t mean that you should not listen to other people at all, but take all what they say, even if on the basis of best intentions, with a grain of salt. And don’t let their judgments have the final influence on your decision making process when it comes to finding the best Russian bride.